The types of friends you have in your twenties

The types of friends you have in your twenties

Friends are so important in your twenties, they are in all ages but especially in your twenties. You are all getting sea sick in the same rocky boat we call life! You are all trying to navigate to that lovely island called ‘I am smashing adulthood’. But you get pretty lost along the way but it is ok because you have your pals with you to help out, you are all in the same metaphoric boat after all. You come across a lot of pals in your 20’s that all play important parts in these testing but horrendously fun and messy years. So here is a list of the type of friends you meet in your twenties:

  • The party friend: This friend is great to have around in your twenties and always matches your wild dance moves and desire to down multiple shots when you really don’t need anymore. This person is down for deep and meaningful chats in the smoking area about the boys you fancied 10 years ago then once you have finished your pointless rant will drag you back to the dancefloor to dance to come on Eileen. These are the friends that can turn a bad day into a fantastic, new, spontaneous memory within hours! They are absolutely vital and are the most fun ever. Nobody ever knows what mischief might occur with this friend. Did someone say spoons?
  • The MUM friend: This friend is not actually a mum but might as well be your adopted social mum. They are your go to for advice on life and always seem to know the right thing to say. They are also in their twenties but have a magical power of having their shit together?! They always know the right thing to do and are always there at your beckon call to help you decide massive things such as; What colour to paint your nails?! They also are great to have on a night out: they keep everyone together, ensure all drunken disputes are solved, makes sure everyone has their ID, card and dignity in tact in the taxi back. Guardian angels are these friends, absolute gals.
  • The go-months-without-seeing-but-are-still-close-as-ever friend: Now this pal is a special kind of pal. I like to call these friendships ‘grown up’ as we get we’re both busy independent working ladies that have no time to constantly text. So therefore months will go by without a word from either end until one day you get a random meme or old photo from each other and BAM the catch up commences. The catch up never acknowledges how long it has been since the last conversation though, GOOD GOD NO, that would be absurd. You just enjoy the fact that nothing has changed and you still have such a lovely friendship with this person. It also makes the catch ups amazing and FULL of tea as it’s months worth of life goss!
  • The work friend: This one is a good egg. You see them everyday at both your fave places… work! (Detect the sarcasm.) Now this friend, man this friend is the one that you can sit with and moan for hours, except you never have that long as lunch breaks only seem to last 5 seconds before you must go back. This person you don’t see socially nearly as much as your other friends. But in those short times at work that you do see each other you seem to; exchange vital gossip, share your deepest secrets, catch up, discuss the thought process behind your lunch and solve all of lifes qualms together. And of course they are someone who can relate to all your work related dramz and stresses.
  • The Social Media friend: This is an easy one, these are people that you do not actually speak to in person but have an unspoken rule of being loyal likers on each others posts. These people are likely to be friends of friends, drunken besties made in the toilets years ago or just random people. Either way you will never be going for coffee with them but appreciate their loyalty to your social media.
  • The adult friend: This one may sound like the MUM friend but they are very different. The adult friend is the one with their shit together for real, they may be older or the same age. But these people have their own houses, some have children and some are married. Pretty grown up stuff, you like to look at their life in awe of how they have their stuff together. You enjoy sophisticated evenings with them discussing real life issues while eating cheese and olives feeling a little like an imposter. You feel dare I say… ‘grown up’ around them. They give you a bit of a reality check. They are amazing friends to you though and help guide you and always have amazing advice. These ones are golden.
  • The questionable-life-choices friend: This one, ahhh this one gives you stress. You love them for their crazy decisions and you can always count on them for some serious tea to be spilt in catch ups. But, they give you anxiety over their choices sometimes. However, they are also pretty good for making you feel a bit better about your own poor decisions because they have either done it before OR have done something way worse. You want to wrap this one in bubble wrap but alas instead you must just give them advice and hope they take it. Now these friends are amazing to confide in as it is always a non judgment zone and they can often relate to your own choices and know just how to cheer you up. They are worth the stress!
  • The Rock friend: Now I don’t mean the Rock as in Dwayne the Rock Johnson, although I wish he was a pal you meet in your twenties. No, this person/people they are true golden eggs, the best of the best. These are the ones that are there for you always, they have your back and are loyal to you no matter what. They are the kind of friend that you can just be in a room with on a bad day not talking and feel better for just being in their company. They have been by your side through some of the hardest times in your life. You take comfort in knowing that this/these friends will be there to help you fight whatever comes your way. The rock friend makes you feel like you are never alone and never have to face anything alone. I could go on and on but these ones, these are the best ones.

So which friend are you? Tag your friends and see if you guess the same!
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Quarter life crisis time

Quarter life crisis time

Ahhhh here I am the night before my 25th birthday. I am currently looking down at my bitten down nails (kind of annoyed as I had been growing them out but anyway I am setting a scene) thinking that habit needs to stop. I cannot help be filled with a little dread and anxiety at officially being ‘mid-twenties’. This now means my 5 year plan takes me to 30?!?!!!

Quarter-Life Crisis (def): a crisis that may be experienced in one’s twenties, involving anxiety over the direction and quality of one’s life

I am someone who since I was about 4 has had my life planned out, like every inch of it. Maybe thats why I am still single, my future husband aka that handsome stickman with spiky hair and a flame shirt I drew when I was 9 just does not seem realistic… We all know life never goes to plan though and my plans have often changed but have always followed roughly the same sort of story line (I am an ex drama student it is all about the drama).

For the first time in my life I have no idea what I want to do next. I am someone that constantly seeks change and excitement and adventure. So I feel like I have to cram all that into the next 5 years.

Christmas 2017 changed my plans a little when I volunteered in a nursing home and I met a man, he was 91 years old and he sat and told me his whole life story and I loved it. He had the most amazing stories from such an amazing life and it triggered something in me to make sure my story was as good! Boxing day I booked a solo trip to Bali for a month to volunteer in a school and work with the rehabilitation of turtles. (Summer of a lifetime btw.)

It gave me the travelling bug for sure but I do feel I would like to travel more when I am little older as my career is a focus at the moment.

But anyway in this time I have spent the evening reflecting on the past 25 years and if little L would be proud of L now. If I am honest I think she would, maybe not some decisions but most yes! I live a good life and am surrounded by the most amazing people. I work hard in a good job and have an amazing social life.

Not only that but in the past 4 years I have fought my way out of a deep depression hole, lost 3 and a half stone, became more confident, secured a wicked job, have made amazing memories and have been unapologetically myself.

Do I still think I am ‘finding myself’? Yes a little sometimes a lot but as time goes on I am really proud of the woman I am becoming. 25 is a scary age but one where I feel a new chapter of life is about to begin.

I also love odd numbers so prefer to be an odd number age – don’t know why.

Reflective ramble over – Happy Bday 2 me xox

L x

The pressures of social media

The pressures of social media

So being a twenty something I thought ahhh my care for social media will pass in due course. Long story short – it. did. not. I feel like I am more obsessed with social media than I ever have been before. I thought Bebo would be the height of social media then instagram came along…

I will set the scene for you – walk into a beautifully designed London floral cafe, you look around and see everyone posing, snapping pics of themselves or the surroundings. You can’t even judge them because you know you are about to whack huji out to get that perfect ‘candid’ shot of you laughing of to one side having the ‘best time ever’. When in reality you are out of breath from sucking in so hard, your face hurts from the fake smile and you feel a little embarrassed about any onlookers witnessing the ‘behind the scenes’ of your gram.

It is a fikkle game social media, it gives you a weird high when you get a load of likes and weird low when your photo bombs. Like why do we still care about this online acceptance of our lives? I hate that we care so much – that I care so much, it can become quite draining.

I feel for twenty something year olds instagram can be really disheartening, as we are seeing people our age or younger getting beautiful houses, getting engaged, going on amazing holidays, sharing their INSANE bodies and just in general showing off how great life is. We are at an age of uncertainty of where we are going in life, a false sense of security a lot of the time and when we log into our gram we see other twenty somethings who seem to have their lives in order.

I am guilty as sin for caring too much about my social media presence. One of my first thoughts when I have an event is hmm what am I going to wear, can’t wear something I have already worn on the gram. How mad is that?! Like c’mon L get a grip. I feel so much pressure if I am in a cool place to get a picture of myself looking like a #model. And if I do not get the shot I actually feel so rubbish about it. Again WTF? When did I allow my life to revolve around an app.

I know friends who have deleted the gram for a few weeks to help their mental health or self esteem. How crazy that we are having to delete something to help our own mental health because the pressure of an app is too much. It makes me very sad and so, so sad to think those in generations after us will have this take over their lives from such a young age. At least we all had our childhoods of playing out these children now days do not have that, they are eaten up by the pressures to look good and have nice things all the time.

It is a mad world we live in. But what is important is to remember that social media is not real life. People don’t post those photos of them laying on the sofa, ice cream around their mouth, mascara running because they had a break up or argument with their perfect insta husband. Maybe that’s what the gram needs, a bit more honesty? I can be the first to say I probz would not be uploading any ugly pics anytime soon. Vicky Pattison is great for keeping it real on the gram, love her hungover pics!

But anyway moral of the blog, people only post the life they want you to see. Those down days, those ugly breaking out days, those I haven’t got dressed and smell today pics happen in real life they just arn’t shown. Try to not compare yourself too much and try to remember life is there to be enjoyed, not instagrammed. I also am not claiming to be a guru here and I myself need to follow those morals also so yano this is a pep talk for us all.

Also, I do love instagram and seeing pictures of everybody’s lives, it is a great way to keep in contact with people also. I just wish I/we did not feel the pressures so much. Obv I know other platforms of social media are tough too but I feel instagram is the one that gets people the most.

Have a lovely week all!

L x

Directions please

Directions please

Ok so I am not talking the kind of directions to get to the local bar (although if you have those directions I will @ u l8r). No this post is about the silly amount of life directions that seem to occur as you hit your twenties. It can all get a bit mind boggling, confusing and just damn scary to be quite honest.

It feels like the decisions you are going to be making in these years are so important and life changing. I don’t know what it is but the minute I hit 23 I was like oh ma gaaaad I am getting OLD I need to experience everything I have ever wanted to before my time runs out. It feels like somebody hit fast forward on life and I have no idea why in my mind set I am thinking life ends at 30! Like 30s are the new 20s so I hear?!

But anyway mild panic word vomit paragraph over. Phew.

My point is these are the years of figuring stuff out and exploring all those different paths that arise. For me my biggest struggle is the fact that I love my job so much and I am progressing well. BUT (theres always a but) my heart lies in performing and I just feel like I NEED to pursue acting while in my 20s, as acting is a fikkle game especially with age! Not only that I promised my Gran she would see me on the West End so yano added all the pressure to myself. By the way things are going atm will have to take her and just run onto the stage – I did not specify that I would be performing on the stage so…..

It feels like so many options arise in your twenties and you are constantly changing your mind on what direction you are wanting to go in. From small things like – what bank to get a credit card with to massive things like what career you want to pursue for the next few years or… forever. I think the difficult part of that is for the first time in our lives were having to reflect on how this is going to impact our future, it is a lot of pressure. No wonder us 20 somethings are always second guessing stuff!

Sometimes the best way to deal with choosing these paths is to go get some unicorn gin, drink it with your pals and laugh in the face of adulthood.

I am unsure of the purpose of this post, I guess it was just a daily struggle post to help us twenty somethings feel like we are not alone.

I believe in fate so you know I think I will just sit back and let fate sort it all out for me. As long as my fate is to live in a mansion in Chelsea, be a west end star and have 31 (I do not like even numbers) cats and dogs. So if fate does not sort me out with that then I am taking to twitter to brand shame it? Sounds legit.

L x

Being single in your twenties

Being single in your twenties

Oh god the panic… everyone around you is starting to get their shit together, getting engaged, having children, buying houses. Like sorry what, I think I was downing a bottle of wine out of a straw crying at rom-coms when that announcement was made…

The pressure to find someone is mad, everyone starts asking ahhh so when are you going to settle down and find a nice man. Like excuse me my life is very interesting can you not choose to ask me about the most un-interesting part of it please.

Now, don’t get me wrong I do enjoy being single… luckily (been single 3 years now). But the hardest part of being single is when you decide ‘right yes time to find someone now’. That is where things go downhill, jesus how do people meet people in a romantic way. I am still waiting for my rom com style meeting with my soul mate but he still keeps standing me up ffs. So alas here I am swiping through tinder talking to men who insist on having the weirdest chat that often makes me throw my phone in disbelief.

I have very terrible luck with men, I attract wrong uns to be quite honest.
Here is a list of the kind of wrong uns I have experienced:
The cute, quiet one that turns out to be a nutter
The absolute head fuck
The one that ignores you for weeks but continues to like all your pictures and send flame emojis to EVERY selfie
The one who is not your type but is so nice you give a chance to and they turn out to be as awful as the rest
Then just your standard fuck boy.

I am sure many of you have experienced those kind of boys or girls before. Absolute nightmares tbh. It is a wander I have yet to lose faith in men but my rom-coms tell me there is hope, just need to find someone who is willing to stick to my script tbh.

Sadly, my script seems to be similar to Bridget Jones atm but hey if that means I get a Mark Darcy in the end then okkk I will roll with the punches.

But the moral of the story being single in your twenties is stressful. I have not even touched on dating in your twenties yet, we will save that for another post.

However, this is also the most amazing time to be single, no commitments, time for your own well being, memories made with your closest pals. Although stressful, single life is very nice especially in the hot weather when you have no sweaty person trying to cuddle you in the night.

If you read all that you are my new fave person, cheers hope you enjoyed.

In other news I got myself a twitter – @20something_l
Give me a cheeky follow or just a normal follow yano either or…

L x

The life of a twenty something year old!

The life of a twenty something year old!

So first things first hello and welcome to my blog!

So if you had not already guessed I am in my twenties and wanted to start a blog that discusses life in your twenties. It is a weird time the twenties, I thought after my teens I would have life sorted and I would be a real life ‘grown up’ oh how wrong I was.

I aim to be totally open and honest on this blog so all you fellow twenty somethings can relate. I will discuss all things from my fitness regime to my disaster of a love life. It will be a big old range that I will be covering.

Little bit about myself (feel like I am about to write a tinder bio). I am currently 24, I am female, single, work with children, love to travel and my passion lies in performing arts! Plz swipe right – hope people got that tinder joke…

So there we have it, enjoy!